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Dear
Jill:
 I
was born on January 23, 1973, at 10:21 am in Eugene, Oregon. I have recently
ended a three-year relationship in which I directed very little energy
toward my own needs. This wasn't obvious to me until it was over and
now I find I have much more energy and freedom to do whatever I want,
feel whatever I want and be on my own schedule. I am enjoying this for
now but know that it will eventually get old and am wondering what my
relationship prospects are for the next couple of years.
Thanks, Luci
Dear
Luci:
You are a
complex woman, with a lot to analyze in your chart. However, I hate to
even mention that word, because your chart is so airy (cerebral) that
I don't want to encourage you to over-analyze, which you probably do already!
You have no water (emotion) planets in your chart. Don't worry, that doesn't
mean you're feeling-free by any stretch of the imagination. (I have no
air in my chart, and I don't sound like an idiot do I? Well, moving on…)
You've got
Mars, planet of sex and passion, in devil-may-care Sagittarius, which
does make you a bit of the (to quote a Liz Phair song) “f*@k and run”
type. But, wet-blanket Saturn is opposite your Mars, which gives you the
equivalent of half a conscience. You may not step out on your lover, but
you sure do fantasize about it!
Also, Luci
baby, you have Moon in Libra, the sign of love, art and harmony. So even
though your Sun is in argument-picking, independent, progressive Aquarius,
your inner nature (that's what the Moon represents) is a big ole mushy
romantic sap. In addition, you have volatile, sexy and intense Pluto (which
is conjunct your Moon) and unconventional, contrary Uranus also in Libra,
hanging out near your Seventh House cusp (the "doorway to your house
of love"). Both Pluto and Uranus are the big "change" planets.
Pluto refers to your own process of self-transformation while Uranus is
more about how you can change the world or others.
With both
these planets in gentle, people-pleasing Libra, I suspect you may have
a lot of conflicts about being in a relationship once the honeymoon phase
is over. Meaning, the Libra part of you is incredibly charming, and accommodating,
but the Aquarius/Uranus part of you likes to shake things up, and in some
ways would rather be alone or just have good friends rather than feel
"watered down" and constricted by your partner. The way your
Aquarian/Uranian side might battle against your Libran side is by doing
this: building up anger and resentment and withdrawing into your own head
(and analyzing the situation to death without allowing yourself to FEEL
your fury) and then deciding you need a huge, abrupt sweeping change in
your love life.
The way I
see it you certainly WILL have love again (and I'll tell you more about
when in a moment). Your charming Libra planets virtually guarantee it.
The question is, what KIND of a lover/relationship do you want? That's
what you need to ruminate on (and hard) right now, during this interim
period in your romantic life.
Your
Ideal Love Situation
Since Uranus
sits in your Seventh House of love, I say use this frictious planet, or
lose it. What you need in your life is a most unconventional relationship.
The kind that years from now, friends will say "My God, I never knew
a relationship could be like that. You two are such an inspiration."
Basically what I'm saying is you need a partner in crime, someone you
can break the traditional rules of love, sex and marriage with, but with
complete honesty and integrity.
This person
could be the one to push you to try some pretty funky stuff, be it a menage
a trois or a menage-a-even-more-people than that! Sometimes people
with strong Libra energy act so sweet and good, that they have to sneak
around back eventually so they can express their "bad" side.
For you, I see the kind of relationship that's totally open and truthful
but that is absolutely different from the "norm" that society,
your parents and all "in the box" thinkers might predict. The
details of what it looks like? That's up to you (and your future mate)
to imagine and create, but I have a feeling some bondage and a Catholic
schoolgirl outfit are involved.
So,
When?
I suspect
your love life may go through an exciting, passionate transformation about
a year from now. In November 2001, Pluto will begin to move over your
Mars (planet of sex and passion) in your Ninth House of travel, higher
education and philosophy. It's likely that you could be immersed in a
relationship with someone from another culture (or who was raised in a
radically different way than you were). It would certainly be a great
time to travel and be open to taking more emotional, romantic risks than
you usually do.
What I mean
is this: instead of being so damn accommodating in the beginning of a
relationship, let your contrary side show! Be open about how supposedly
difficult you are. Let your anger out. And be open to a lover who is scary
and thrilling because you can't just charm him into submission. The only
way to make this relationship work is to show who you are, dark side and
all.
Pluto goes
directly over your Mars at the end of 2001/beginning of 2002, so by then
I expect you'll be ready to take the biggest risk of all: admitting what
you want romantically, and going after it, full throttle.
In the meantime,
give yourself permission to be a little bit more, shall we say, slutty,
than you usually allow yourself to be, especially during the first half
of 2001. You see, in January, a lunar eclipse goes over your South Node
(past lives), in the maternal sign of Cancer. I see this as your opportunity
to fully play out your madonna/whore issues.
By the time
you settle down in 2002, you'll have gotten a handle on your own demons,
and can conjure them up at will, for maximum pleasure.
Good luck,
doll!
Jill
Notes
Send relationship
questions to Jill at ASTROJILLY@aol.com. Please include the words "Bedroom
Astrology" in the subject line.
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