remember my marriage as probably the worst mistake I've ever made! My
ex-husband Jack (born July 6, 1970, in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, not sure
of birth time) and I (born July 1, 1969, in Irving Texas at 3:06 am) decided
to get a much-needed divorce in July of 1999. (Oddly, the day he moved
out was August 11, 1999, during the grand cross.)
So my new
and considerably nicer boyfriend Chris (born December 3, 1972, in Jerome,
Idaho, just after 11:00 am) and I have been talking about getting married,
but he wants to get married very soon. I'd totally love to spend the rest
of my life with this person, but marriage seems pretty spooky to me now.
just skip to the part where he drives off with the vehicles and I write
an outrageous settlement check? Or are we better suited for a commitment
than I was with my previous partner?
I can see
why you and your ex parted ways. The big lug's oppressive Saturn sits
right on your Venus, which makes him a bit of a killjoy in your life.
Since your Venus (favored in Taurus—a sign it rules) is in your First
House of self, Jack probably had a way of criticizing you as a lover/wife
that made you feel like a totally worthless person. How endearing. Not!
Jack's Pluto (volatile planet of self transformation) sits exactly on
your South Node (past life lessons). Hey, maybe you needed to act as a
catalyst in his life in this incarnation to repay him for some of your
bad behavior in a past go round. I'd say the debt is paid, you probably
taught Jack a lot about himself and now the ink on the divorce papers
is dry so you can move on and consider the karma complete.
I do think
you are moving on up the male food chain in your current selection of
a mate. Being a Cancer yourself, you're probably way over the moody Cancer
energy of your ex and are ready for some freewheeling optimistic Sagittarian
vibes. Chris, your current love, has all that positive energy and more.
His chart is very "top heavy," which suggests that his public/career
life will be his focus in this incarnation, and that's just fine. Unlike
sourpuss Jack, Chris is ready, willing and able to find happiness in the
outer world. Your darling Chris doesn't have time to pick you apart (as
Jack did). He's got too much important stuff to DO in the world. Chris
does have his dark side though. Not necessarily bad dark. Just a little
sexy and twisted. Read on.
Deep Romance With the New Man
and Mars (both his love planets) are exactly conjunct in the sexy, controlling,
mystical sign of Scorpio. They're also conjunct his Moon (emotional desires)
in this deep water sign. All three of these planets in his chart make
a sweet trine (smooth aspect) to your Sun in Cancer, a fellow water sign.
This suggests a certain harmony between you. You are both deeply emotional
people who can provide meaning and comfort in each other's lives.
Venus and Mars are also conjunct your Seventh House cusp (what I like
to call "the doorway to your house of love"). This suggests
that the connection between you two is intensely romantic, and HOT. Scorpio
is the sign of undercurrents of emotion and deep passionate sexuality.
I'm sure when you're boinking your babe you know what I mean! The words
in this column, suggestive as they may be, can never do justice to the
truth that you find in each other during those tense and terrific moments
of teasing and throbbing ecstasy. Whew. I need a moment, myself.
aspect between your charts is this: Your Mars (planet of passion) is conjunct
Chris' Neptune (creative and healing planet of "illusion") in
the adventurous, philosophical sign of Sag. This suggests that your passionate
ways (in bed and in the world) inspire your man. He may have a few "illusions"
about you: You know, see you through a Vaseline-covered lens a la the
old movies, but his views of you are certainly flattering and hopeful.
That's the thing about Chris and his Sag energy, his belief that dreams
can come true can actually make them come true—with you!
Let me also
mention that Chris (like your ex—I won't even mention that creep's name
again!) has a Saturn connection to your chart, too. But his I see as much
more positive and constructive. Chris' Saturn is conjunct your Mercury
(planet of communication) in Gemini—the sign of communication. Chris is
prone to communicating his feelings, a skill that he should develop more
and more and more as he matures. Hopefully, by using his Saturn in Gemini
to try and structure how you two communicate (he could be the king of
the "fair fight"—not a bad thing, and very different from your
mean-spirited ex). He can help you to develop your Mercury in Gemini—your
own latent talents as a writer and speaker.
I think you
have the makings for a much better marriage with Chris than with your
ex. See how you are both feeling in July, when lucky and generous
Jupiter goes into your sign, Cancer. By July 2002, when Jupiter hits Chris' Seventh
House cusp, it may be time to say, "I do."
questions to Jill at ASTROJILLY@aol.com. Please include the words "Bedroom
Astrology" in the subject line.