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Dear
Jilly:
 I
love your column on StarIQ. Here is my burning relationship question.
I regret breaking up with my boyfriend last summer. But I felt he had
some growing up to do and I simply got frustrated with him. I also found
out he was having some sort of Internet "affair," which was
the last straw. I NEVER thought he'd do this to me. I have loved this
man since the day I met him nine years ago, and I still love him today.
Will we ever get back together? He says he is waiting for me to move,
then he asks why I left him and his voice cracks. Is he licking his
Leo wounds? I have forgiven him and want him back.
I was born
April 14, 1966, at 2:00 pm in Chicago. Joey was born August 2, 1969, at
2:30 pm in Berwyn, Illinois.
Sincerely,
Dara
Dear
Dara:
Fire signs
(Aries like you, Leos like Joey and Sagittarians like Brad
Pitt) have a certain innocence about them. No matter how loud
your bark is and how rough your bite in the moment, you fire folks find
it virtually impossible to stay mad, or believe that there really are
bad people in the world. I say all this as a great compliment. Sure, you
get duped sometimes, but at least you follow your hearts.
That's why
I really need to encourage you (and Joey) to follow your hearts, get
your butts in gear and get back together! Yes, Leos can be particularly
proud, and you Aries are fiercely proud of your independence, so I'm sure
pride is getting in the way of a great lifelong love affair.
Ok, here's
the nitty gritty: Your Jupiter (planet of good luck) sits right on Joey's
Venus (planet of love) in Gemini, the sign of the twins. There is something
generous and giving about your connection, and quite "twin like."
You may feel like partners in crime a lot of the time (both Jupiter and
the sign Gemini can be quite mischievous). Whatever you decide to do,
it's definitely best to always be a good sport in this relationship.
His
Mind Needs Stimulation
Yeah, yeah,
all well and good, but I dig that your man dissed you (with his typing
fingers if not with his heart or his hips) and you're probably wondering
why, and if he'll do it again. So let's take a look. Joey's Venus in Gemini
indicates that he needs a lot of mental stimulation in order to remain
satisfied in his love relationship. Talk, or "chat" (which may
have drawn him to the Net) goes a long way with him. But he's not just
some shallow lad who needs a lot of "yadda, yadda, yadda" with
no commitment. His Venus is in the Eighth House, the house of long-term
commitment. But in order for him to make good on his true desire to be
a faithful long-term lover, he does have to receive high doses of daily
intellectual, verbal and flirty stimulation. The Eighth House is very
transformative, and I can't help but think that if you patch things up
it might be healing for you to try a little sexy email cyber chat with
Joey to keep the wordy heat flowing hot.
He
Can’t Read Your Mind
Looking at
your chart, babe, I can't help but notice that your romantic style is
quite different from Joey's. Even though you have Sun and Mars in Aries,
your love nature is much more Pisces. The sign of the fishes sits on your
Descendant (aka the doorway to the Seventh House of partnership), plus
you have Venus, Chiron and Saturn in Pisces in your Seventh House, and
Mercury in Pisces in your Eighth House of commitment.
This suggests
that you have an unconscious desire for a more Piscean love experience,
which entails floating in a dream-like bubble with your man, not having
to articulate your needs, but expecting him to sense them. And if he doesn't,
that's ok too (by your Piscean standards) because you can just retreat
into a fantasy world. Obviously, this can make for trouble! Add to the
mix the fact that your Neptune (the fantasy/illusion planet that
rules Pisces) sits EXACTLY on Joey's Ascendant (persona, physical self). He
is the perfect match for your fantasy game.
In order
to make the intense subconscious conversations between you two a little
more constructive rather than destructive, here's my advice: Articulate
your desires and needs. Go over the top in putting them into words. That's
the only way to defend against the potentially toxic Pisces/Neptune "mind
reading" b.s. that I sense between you two. And guess what? Your
pal Joey loves to talk and get email, so the more you articulate the more
you will turn him on, and protect yourself from your own (emotionally)
masochistic instincts!
Reuniting:
Will It Feel So Good?
I think this
summer could really be a summer of love for you two crazy kids. In July,
lucky Jupiter transits Joey's Venus in his marriage house so I really
think he'll welcome the opportunity to get serious, and seriously sexy
with you in a whole new and exciting way. Also, in July, Jupiter will
stop squaring (making a difficult aspect) your love planets and instead
will begin to trine Venus (make a harmonious aspect). Instead of feeling
like you have to fight your nature, you can find the most constructive
way to express your deepest love nature. Good luck!
Your StarIQ
Advisor,
Jill Dearman
Send your
question to Advisors@StarIQ.com.
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