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Calling all singles! Where are you in your search for the perfect mate? Are you passionate about the dating scene? How many times have you been down the Road of Love only to find that your romantic partner did not meet your needs? Regardless of who initiated the breakup, pain and grieving are part of the cycle. Memories keep emotions at the raw state. The flames fizzled and you are without a mate. If you thought your new partner was your soul mate, itís time to face the issues and figure out what happened on your love journey.

How would you know if you are likely to meet someone just by looking at your astrology chart? Your astrology chart holds valuable information about your love life. Well, the planets keep moving by sign and degree. These movements are called transits. If a currently moving planet contacts one of your natal personal planets, your timing may be right for starting a new relationship. Look for activity in both charts to move this relationship along.

Before you swear off another relationship, know that you are not alone. Countless individuals find themselves recovering from broken relationships. The key is inner healing. That means asking tough questions about the quality of the fated relationship. If you donít deal with the issues, youíll keep making the same mistakes and attracting similar partners.


After you have released your anxiety over past or present partnership experiences, address your current state of reality. Are you over the old partner? If not, you may have blocks to attracting a new mate. Next, deal with trust issues. Start with yourself. Without it, your search is flawed. Once you feel open to romance, do key inner work to help you identify suitable partners. First, think about who you are as a unique being and what would make you happy in a relationship. The following self-assessment test should help you make better choices for yourself. Take your timeóit is worth the investment.

What type of partner have I attracted in the past?

Make a list of positive qualities or experiences.

Make a list of undesirable qualities or experiences.

What type of partner would meet my needs?

Describe your top ten preferences in terms of qualities in a mate. Donít stop if you can think of more than ten.

List favorite activities you like to share with a partner.

Where do I usually meet potential partners?

Am I satisfied that individuals I might have compatibility with are to be found in these places?

What worked in the past?

What did not work?

Am I willing to change set patterns and old habits to open up my field of contact?

What are my goals, values and expectations in a relationship?

Name one change that took place in your life in the last month.

What are you willing to change in the months ahead to improve the quality of your relationships?

Think of these questions as trigger tools that get you started in your goal to make things happen. You will need to change your routines. That means getting off the couch and exploring new social outlets.

The Ultimate Quest

Once you make a decision to find your ideal partner, also called a soul mate, your success depends on how ready you are to take a risk. You may be thinking, ďDo I get a guarantee for lifetime happiness with the new person I am about to date?Ē After all, I did the work. The answer, of course, is NO. You are going to explore this relationship once it opens up. Deep inside you will know whether you are ready. Let your quest be an adventure as you start looking for signs, developing awareness and noticing your feelings. Some of the signs to look for are: a sense of love at first sight, a feeling that you have been with this person before, a sense that you deeply understand each other even though you just met, a pull of destiny regarding the relationship and an awareness that this is the person you have dreamed about and wanted in your life. Remember, too, to look for connections or activity in your birth chart and that of your potential partner.

The Astrological Factor

Perhaps you have thought about checking Sun sign compatibility with that of your significant other. If this term is new to you, it simply means that your astrology sign seems to work well with your partnerís. Signs in the fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) and air (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) elements relate favorably to one another as do the earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) with water (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces).

Understanding Sun sign compatibility gives you a head start, but is seldom enough proof that a relationship is solid. Your astrological chart reflects your blueprint for this lifetime. It presents a true picture of your emotional needs, passions and feelings through the expression of your personal planets, the Sun, the Moon, Venus and Mars. Those planets are compared with a prospective partnerís planets to give you insight into the relationshipís future. This process is much more involved than our article covers, but it is a vital part of your love assessment if you want to know more about your mutual connections. I highly recommend a compatibility consultation when your relationship takes off.

Next Steps

Make an appointment to have your astrology chart interpreted. Then shake old routines and start socializing. Read Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis for tips on choosing the right partner. For additional insight, be sure to check out LoveCycles, or consult the romance topics and workshops listed on my StarIQ web page. When you find a fascinating companion, schedule an astrological compatibility session. If you have the desire, youíll find the love!


Alice DeVille has been an astrologer, workshop presenter, and writer for over 25 years. Her expertise in romance and relationships attracts a diverse client base in the U.S. and abroad. She developed a series of workshops on finding your Soul Mate and other romantic themes. Alice combines a variety of consulting skills in her astrological practice, including business, financial and change management, real estate, and intuitive insight. Her writing appears in Llewellynís Sun Sign Book, Moon Sign Book, and Herbal Almanac.

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For more information about Alice DeVille, click here.

Other StarIQ articles by Alice DeVille:

  • Soul Mate Zone   11/23/2013
  • Interview with the Messenger   5/22/2013
  • Home Sweet Home   4/1/2012
  • Letís Talk Business   8/13/2001
  • Runaway Love   4/12/2001
  • The Month of Love   2/13/2001
  • Is There a Promotion in Your Future?   9/13/2000
  • Is There a Moving Van in Your Future?   6/28/2000
  • Letís Talk Business   6/14/2000
  • Walking the Green Mile with Tom Hanks   2/11/2000

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